Petty contempt disguised as motivational speech
I usually don't attack views or directly call out people.....
Primarily because its not my style, and not my calling. My goal for writing was to write for my younger self strange as it may sound. So a lot of what I am my target audience.
Uganda is a really tough place to survive let alone thrive. We are given limited pathways to pursue, doctor, engineer, lawyer, but no real guidance on the harsh realities of life, and or the problems awaiting us.
So when we step out of higher education(for the lucky few that attained it), we are unprepared. As a result, when a person that seems to have the trappings of success(especially attained over a short period of time) speaks, we listen. I am lucky, because by nature I am a very suspicious person. I tend to over analyse things, and want to understand what I am being told or sold to the tiniest of details.
Nonsense
So when a tweet from a gentleman I don not know was floating around, I had to respond.
This tweet got my blood boiling, as the headline suggests, it was pure petty contempt.
The pressure on young men is already immense, We are meant to take care of our families, look for mates, acquire assets, and pursue our own self improvement all at the same time. As anyone who has ever tried achieving anything of any significance knows, you have to sacrifice one thing to get another.
If you are out there taking care of bills, family, and other responsibilities, I commend you. Let no one make you feel that you are somehow less than the people you see regularly making grand claims on social media. We have no idea what help they had, what they did to acquire that wealth, and whether said wealth exists.
You are successful when you say you are, by that I mean, our goals are different, yours might have been to buy an impreza, mine might be to buy land. If we each achieve our individual goals, we are both successful.
Coping with pressures
Whatever it is you want to achieve, have a goal. One that is realistic and relative to your abilities, and resources.
Determine what you want out of life, and fine tune for that. It could be money, independence, passion, or even a career that has you working remotely.
Get a partner that is supportive of your goals, and on the same page as you.
Look at those ahead of you, in the exact place you want to be in 20 years, listen to their advice, and if possible, get them to mentor you both physically and virtually( I consider Alex Hormozi and the late Charlie Munger as some of my virtual mentors). Ignore the rest(parents, friends, even me included if that’s what you decide).
Keep away media of any kind that leaves you feeling hopeless and worthless.
You are capable of so much more, and should push yourself to your fullest potential, but that is not today’s message, if you are taking care of yourself and your family, I salute you!
Thanks so much for joining me for this unexpected article, I hope to see you again.